Mirroring is a psychological term that means:
‘The world shines you back at you.’

This can be particularly daunting because when you are initially introduced to this concept you realise that you can no longer hide from anything that you try to deny.

So in basic terms:
When you find yourself in happy and balanced situations / interactions you are in a happy and balanced place internally.
Likewise when you find yourself in challenging / emotionally provoking situations you are challenged or emotionally struggling with something, even if you hadn’t realised that you were.
The idea is that you always receive a mirror of something happening inside of you.
Because we attract what we harbour.
Think of it like an extension of rapport which is our 2nd level dialogue;
our unconscious communication.
We consciously make choices about what we want to say and how we want to interact.
However we are always unconsciously processing information so at a 2nd level
one person communicates with another by mirroring.
Do you ever find yourself using body language that you wouldn’t usually
in a runaway conversation, saying things you wouldn’t normally say?
 These are prime examples of mirroring in action.
Sometimes this can feel great, like you are bonded and really connected for no apparent reason.
However sometimes it can feel deeply uncomfortable.
You might find yourself thinking that you want to escape the situation.
You might even find yourself questioning a person you previously held in high esteem.
‘It feels like they don’t like me anymore.’
‘They seemed off today.’
‘That was out of character.’
‘Flipping heck that got out of hand’
And when that happens, rather than taking offence, the first thing that you should do is look inwards.
Despite the immediate feelings of discomfort that you are likely projecting onto the other person
(shock, dismay, anger, frustration, hurt or sadness)
park it and evaluate yourself.
What were the key things that threw you?
Was any of the experience representative of something that you have been feeling/burying recently?
Was there something that you needed to hear or learn from that interaction?
If not blindingly obvious, what could this be representative of?
Where do you need to do the work?
  • Welcome to OWNERSHIP.
    The art of taking responsibility for yourself.
    Once you can engage in challenging or provoking interactions and ask yourself what was going on for you, you take a massive step in the right direction of self-awareness.
    Long term you will no longer take things personally, feel offended or be hurt by others.
    Instead you will be able to recognise what belongs to you and what belongs to others.
    You will welcome the more challenging interactions because you will begin to appreciate how much you can take from them.
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